Business and Social
Entertaining Tips
Diana Olson,
MA AICI CIP Etiquette and Image Consultant, Pasadena
l. Beginning of Meal:
Wait for your host/hostess to pick up the napkin to signal the beginning of the
meal. Wait until they begin eating before you begin.
2. RSVP or
REGRETS ONLY in lower
left corner of invitation: RSVP means
"Respondez
s'il vous plait" or please answer. REGRETS ONLY means, call only if you
are unable to attend. This is an important way to respond to an invitation.
3. Elbows: should not be on table. Wrists may touch
only the table edge.
4. Formal
invitations: Should be mailed 4-6 weeks in advance of the party.
Informal
invitations should be mailed 2-3 weeks in advance.
5. Declining an
Invitation: Promptly reply. A kind answer may be "Thank you for the
invitation, but we have already made other plans for that date." A further
explanation is not necessary.
6. Inviting 100
people, expect 80 to attend a social function. The best hours for a cocktail
party are 5:30 to 7:30. A name tag should be on your right shoulder so that it
can easily be seen when shaking hands. Stand for all introductions.
7. Guest should arrive within 15 minutes of invitation time; dinner is
served within 60 minutes and no more than 90 minutes after designated time.
Delay dinner no more than l5 minutes for late arrival.
8. Hostess
is the last to enter the dining room. Guests should stand behind the chairs
until the hostess indicates that everyone should be seated. The hostess is seated
first by the man on her left. The gentleman on each lady's left should pull out
her chair.
9. Buttering
Bread: Over the butter plate, tear off a small piece of bread and
butter it over the plate. Then bring the bread to your mouth. The butter knife
should be on the butter plate and should be parallel to the edge of the table.